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Should you stick it out for the sake of the children?

We've all heard a parent say they're deciding to stay together for the sake of the children. It's been the prevailing wisdom for years that sticking it out through an unhappy marriage is the best thing you can do for the children. The idea is that getting a divorce can devastate a child beyond recognition. However, just because we've told ourselves this for decades doesn't mean it's the truth. In fact, in many cases, getting a divorce could be the best thing for the children.

The truth is, many couples say they are holding the family together for the child's sake, but most just hate the idea of losing a child custody battle and being forced to separate from their children. The idea of being reduced to a visitor in your child's life can be scary, but if you want to do what's in the best interest of your child, you should consider the following points:

  • Children are very perceptive. Even if you think you're hiding your failing relationship from them, chances are, you're not. Children pick up on even the slightest tension and awkwardness between their parents and internalize it, often suffering silently with guilt or fear because of the situation.
  • It's one of the hardest things you can do in life, but sitting down with your spouse and taking a hard, honest look at your relationship can be healthy, even if it means a split. Ignoring the situation will only make it worse.
  • Don't hold off on getting help. If you've decided to divorce, you may want to speak with an attorney sooner than later.

Remember, an attorney may be able to help you work out a child custody agreement that means you can stay front and center in your child's life.

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